Positive thinking your way to a better life
If you spend any time on Facebook or Twitter, you have probably seen hundreds (perhaps thousands) of memes with a quote about positive thinking emblazoned upon it. But does it really help anyone? Has anyone ever went from nothing to success because of it? Does it really help you be more at peace in the world? Does it actually help reduce stress? Does it help you connect with Divine?
The easy answer to all of the above questions is yes. But it seems too much like some sort of mumbo jumbo type thing to believe it works it works the way some people say it does. The Mayo Clinic states: “Positive thinking helps with stress management and can even improve your health.” TinyBuddha.com says: “That’s what one small negative thought can turn into: a huge, speeding ball of ugliness. On the contrary, a small positive thought can have the same effect blossoming into a beautiful outcome.” Except for a few special cases, it is not a matter of if it works but more of a matter letting go of the negative thoughts you are caught in.
Are you afraid to let go of Negative Thoughts?
If so, you are not alone. Negative thoughts are fairly addicting. Once you fall into the negative trap, it is hard to climb back out again. Just like any other addiction, whether it is a drug, sex, alcohol or food, it takes effort to overcome, but the results are well worth the efforts.
The only question to ask is what is going to be the best way for you to turn your negative thoughts into positive thinking? That requires a little soul searching. You need to be honest with yourself. That is not the easiest thing in the world to accomplish so don’t beat yourself up if you falter on your first few attempts. We are constantly bombarded on TV and the Internet with messages proclaim “it’s not your fault”. We have become a world filled with victims because so few can accept they did something wrong.
Fix yourself, then you can change the world!
It always amazes me how many people are trying to change the world by controlling others and/or spreading hate. Even more amazing is how many people agree with them and follow them on social media without having a good understanding of what they are teaching/preaching.
All change starts with you. There are over 1.3 BILLION webpages, (according to Google) that talk about this subject. This is not some pretty little quote someone dreamed up, it is something that the majority of world’s leaders in the positivity field agree upon. Your first step is to examine yourself. Find your flaws. See where you can make changes, one step at a time to create the future you want.
Most people have a hard time admitting their mistakes.
It is important that you understand whether you are blaming yourself for not being good enough or blaming others for what they did that caused your problem, you are NOT a bad person. Almost everyone has done this at one point in time. You can rise above and reverse the problems any mistake has caused.
You are where you are at because of decisions you made in life. You made those decisions based on information you had at that point in time. Not having all the information does not make you a bad person. It makes you a human doing the best you can do with the information on hand at that moment in time.
Make a list of your goof-ups and learn from them
That sounds so simple but in reality it just might be the hardest thing you will ever do in your life. Keep in mind, NO ONE will know about any of this unless you tell them. There is no reason to feel afraid or ashamed. Everyone has goofed up hundreds of times in their life. But, it is your choice to stay in the cycle or break free of it. The first step is accepting the things that have already happened. They are in the past. They can only haunt you if you allow them to. Take charge of them and negate their ability to cause you harm.
Your list should include things you did or responses you made that to this day make you cringe. Perhaps you asked a girl on a date and didn’t realize your fly was open, but she did. Perhaps you stole money from Mom’s purse so you could buy something she did not want you to have. Perhaps you became angry at someone you truly cared about and they never spoke to you again. Anything from your past that causes you to have a negative sensation when you think about it should be added to the list.
When you list is complete, take each item on the list and spend a few moments thinking about the situation as it was happening. It honestly does not matter if you could have done something different and received a different outcome. The past is the past and you cannot go back and change it. Accept that it happened. Know you cannot change it, forgive yourself for making a human error and LET IT GO.
From this point on, be determined to no longer allow anything on your list to hold you back. Know it is time to move on. You deserve to be happy and live a fulfilling life from this moment on. Claim it and live by it.
From this point on, when you see all those meme’s with their words of encouragement, don’t pay them lip service by saying they are true and then forgetting about them. Claim them as a truth. Share them, remember them, make a list of them so you can go back and remind yourself in the future. You will find they have a whole new meaning in your life and ring true in your heart and not just in your mind.